CONGRATULATIONS! It’s the holiday season and you now have one extra reason to celebrate. You’ve met the one and are about to embark on a new chapter of plans for the big day and joining two lives. That’s a lot of ground to cover…but I promise, you have plenty of time to enjoy every bit of it.
Its easy to become overwhelmed during the beginning of an engagement. You may start to imagine your dream day (and all the work that will go in to accomplish it). Everyone asks if you’ve picked a date. Parents, friends, family have an opinion of what your wedding could be, should be, will be. You may start a Pinterest page, check out the Knot or buy bridal magazines. First, you should celebrate.
But what are the important pieces of the bridal puzzle to tackle next? How do you make sure you get the wedding you want? Below are my top 3 questions to ask yourself as you start the planning process.
1. What is our budget? Not the most exciting question, but an essential part of the planning process. Once you know what you can spend, you can begin to piece together your needs.
2. (Approximately) How many guests will we have? Again, this question isn’t the most fun to answer. It requires lists from you, your husband or wife to be and the parents. However, budget + guest count is the base for determining things like venue (room size), beverage packages and catering (cost per person).
3. What is important? An outdoor ceremony? Craft beer? Drone video? Prioritize 2-3 items with your fiancé that will mean the most for you as a couple. These priorities will serve to create a vision for the day as well as help you stay on budget.
The time leading up to your wedding will be joyful once you remember that you are simply planning a party to celebrate the love you have found. A wedding planner can help if needed, from organizing your itinerary or setting up the hall to simply providing guidance at the beginning of the process (check out Modern Sage’s Basic Advice package).
So enjoy the season, celebrate the love and forever remember the joy of this moment.
As they say, it is not about the wedding...it is about the marriage. This is an undeniable truth. However, you've played dress up as a little girl (or boy), spent the years going on bad dates and watched every rom com that featured a white dress and a veil (or you haven't and that's just ducky too). You've found your person, planned (and paid for) the wedding and lived to see the day! You want to remember this day forever. Pictures are wonderful, and a good photographer can provide photos you will treasure for a lifetime, but you want strong memories too...the "I can still smell it", take me back kind of memories. How?
My favorite piece of advice for those heading in to the big day is fantastically simple...designate someone to occasionally tell you the time. Not obsessively or on the half hour, but three or four times throughout the day. This helps you acknowledge the passing time of a whirlwind of a day and lets you assign a who/what/where to a moment. I employed this technique on my own wedding day and have a smattering of random hilarious memories to accompany those of the "walking down the aisle" variety. These memories add something special to your day; something that cannot be captured with a camera and I guarantee these will become some of the best anecdotes as time goes on...
My maid of honor singing to herself (half made up) while making faces in the mirror at the salon
The smell of a microwave burrito the wedding party "had" to make while getting ready
Our DJ's teenage daughter killing it with her music set...and looking so serious as she worked
My new (slightly toasted) husband, dancing on a chair as my mom looked on in horror
I love my photos, but I will happily carry these "moment in time" memories forever. I hope you do too...